I know exactly what I need (and want!) to change in my life, and I try, but I just can't do it! Ever had a feeling like that?
Enter the power of crossing a threshold.
When it happened, my wife and I were standing in the kitchen next to a simmering pot of coconut curry soup. It was Fall workday dusk in New York City, that shimmering in-between time when the ambition of the city gives way to its inexplicable peace.
We had a full-presence conversation—you know, one of those intense (while not fighting) and loving (while not cuddling) exchanges.
It was about a dinner we had with our guests last weekend. How did the evening go, what did we notice, stuff like that. As we stood in the middle of the kitchen, an issue emerged, gently, seemingly from nowhere, namely my propensity to take up space with words.
It has been a problem, for years, limiting me relationally, professionally, and spiritually. It touched the nerve.
She grew silent. I grew silent. We were...